What is BATE: Raleigh?
BATE: Raleigh is a jack-off club where men aged 21 and older can get naked and play with other men privately and comfortably.
Our Mission
To promote and host men-only group jack-off events that foster and expand our sexual awareness while building a culture of mutual respect, dignity, and inclusivity among our brothers in a judgment-free environment.Learn More →
Community First
Men walk in nervous and walk out connected. Strangers become regulars. The room builds something real.
Consent Always
Every interaction is consensual. No one touches without permission. This isn't just a rule — it's the culture.
No Pressure
No performance. No expectations. Move at your own pace, stay in your corner, or sync with the group.
Intentional Space
Masturbation-only means everyone is on the same page — focused on presence, not conquest.
Code of Conduct
These rules keep the space safe, hot, and worth coming back to. Attendance means full agreement — no exceptions.
Consent
One must receive CONSENT before engaging with another person. Every person controls their own body and the boundaries they set. CONSENT can be taken just as easily as it was given. Every person should be treated with respect and decency. "NO! means NO!"
Masturbation Only
One will either engage in solo masturbation or group masturbation during BATE: Raleigh events. Any sexual activities beyond that are not permitted.
What's Permitted
The following activities are permitted, with the consent of a fellow attendee:
- Solo masturbation
- Mutual (group) masturbation
- Frotting
- Kissing
- Nipple Sucking
- Body rubbing/massaging
What's Not Permitted
The following activities are not permitted, even with CONSENT:
- Dick sucking (oral)
- Penetrative fucking (anal)
- Fingers inside one's butt
- Drugs/Alcohol
- Swallowing cum
- Sounding (Urethra play)
- Foreskin docking
Touching someone without their CONSENT.
I'm Gonna CUM!
Cumming is not required at the events.
When one is ready to cum, let us know — we want to celebrate with you. Do not just breathe heavy.
Where can you cum?
- On yourself
- Floor — clean up the area after you've finished
- Covered surfaces or a towel
- On a fellow attendee — get CONSENT first. Avoid cumming in the mouth or on the face.
Clothing vs Nudity
Nudity is preferred but not required. No face coverings allowed (ski masks). Minimum participation: strip down to at least one article of clothing — t-shirt, jockstrap, or underwear. Footwear and shoes are allowed. Fetish wear and gear are permitted.
Discretion & Anonymity
All attendees have a right to privacy and discretion. Sharing, confirming, or suggesting that someone attended a BATE: Raleigh event in any setting is strictly prohibited.
BATE: Raleigh will not share or sell any personal information collected at any BATE: Raleigh event.
Personal Hygiene
Personal hygiene is important to address before arriving. Be sure to address body odor, bad breath, and dirty hands.
BATE: Raleigh provides mouth rinse, hand soap, and breath mints at all events.
Drugs & Alcohol
BATE: Raleigh is a drug- and alcohol-free space. Partaking in or offering recreational drugs or alcohol will not be permitted.
- Social Happy Hour events held at licensed venues are the sole exception — responsible, lawful behavior is required at all times.
- Do not arrive at any event intoxicated or under the influence; this could result in denied entry.
Leather Cleaners/Video Head Cleaners are permitted.
When to Stay Home
If you are experiencing symptoms of a contagious illness — or reasonably believe you may transmit a virus, infection, or skin condition — please do not attend. This includes:
- Cold or flu-like symptoms
- Fever, cough, sore throat, or body aches
- COVID-19
- Mpox (formerly Monkeypox)
- Active herpes outbreaks
- Staph infections
- Any unexplained rash, sores, or skin lesions
HIV is not considered a transmission risk within the context of BATE: Raleigh events. You're welcome to participate in accordance with the rules.
Know your status, end the stigma.
Upcoming Events
No events scheduled yet
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Join the Mailing ListWhat Members Are Saying
The morning session seems to bring morning wood baiting great fun full of energy
I was nervous as hell walking in. By the end of the night I felt completely at ease. The vibe was exactly what I needed — no pressure, no judgment, just good energy.
The bag and wristband system is genius. I didn't have to think about my stuff once. Just showed up and enjoyed the night.
Frequently Asked Questions
Are we allowed to suck or fuck at the events?
No! Fucking and sucking is not allowed, this will be a violation to the BATE: Raleigh Code of Conduct.
Do I have to get naked?
No. Minimum attire is underwear, a jockstrap, or shorts. Full nudity is welcome but never required. You move at your own pace.
Is this a gay event?
No — BATE: Raleigh welcomes men of all orientations. Gay, straight, bi, married, single, curious. What unites us is a shared appreciation for social masturbation, not a label.
Is there a cost? How can I pay?
Yes, there is a cost to attend a BATE: Raleigh sessions.
Early Bator – $20
Available until 5 days before the event.
Paid online at registration.Late Registration – $25
Opens after Early Bator pricing ends and remains available until one hour before the event.
Paid online at registration.Pay at the Door – $30
Register in advance and choose to pay at the door. Cash or card accepted.
Cancellation Policy
If you can’t attend, you must communicate this to us in advance. Your payment will then be transferred to another session.
What happens when I arrive?
You'll check in discreetly — no hotel desk interactions. You'll receive a numbered wristband and a bag for your belongings that stays secure until you leave.
Do I have to stay the entire time?
No, you are not required to stay at the event the entire time.
Do I have to play with others?
No, you are not required to play with or touch anyone at the event. You get to decide who, if anyone, to be you playmate.
Can I just watch?
Absolutely. Some men prefer to observe. There's no expectation to participate in anything you're not comfortable with. Watching and being watched is all part of the experience.
What if it's my first time?
First-timers are always welcome. Nerves are normal. The room is welcoming, the rules are clear, and nobody will pressure you into anything. Many of our regulars started exactly where you are.
Is the location kept private?
Yes. The exact address is sent to registered attendees approximately one hour before the session starts. Discretion is a core value of our community.
Where are the events held?
Currently, events are held around the RDU area at a local hotel.
The social events are held at a local brewery.
Do I need to bring my own lube?
BATE: Raleigh provides lube (Coconut Oil). You are welcome to bring your own lube if you like.
Do I provide my information? Can I join anonymously?
We respect your privacy. Some basic information is required to join, but it is kept confidential and only shared if legally required. Complete anonymity is not possible.